Adoption

Acknowledging the Truth about Children (No Matter Where They Come From)

Undoubtedly, I’m biased. I never subjected myself or my marriage to any fertility treatments. But after my first child, Liala Ljunggren, died the day after her due date, a full-term stillborn gorgeous baby girl, I spent two years on the rollercoaster of trying to get pregnant again: transforming sex into a purely utilitarian act and weeping every time my period came. I remember reading news stories about abusive parents whose destroyed children had to be removed from their care and literally wailing out loud, pleading with the stony, unresponsive universe, “I wouldn’t have done that, I promise! Won’t you just give me a chance, please?” […]

December 11th, 2014|Adoption, Family, Infertility|

Who’s Lucky Now?

I confess, I don’t know what all the fuss is about. I didn’t back 25 years ago, when I started investigating the adoption process and I sure as hell don’t today, having raised two children virtually from birth who didn’t enter our family via birth canal. Every time someone tells me how lucky my children are for having been adopted into my family, I want to gag; instead, I politely tell them I’m the lucky one. […]

November 20th, 2014|Adoption, Essays|
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